PA Wife Life

It has been a while since I have written, partially because I have been trying to adjust to all our life changes. I am happy to report that we made it through our first quarter of PA School and have begun the second. I wanted to share how my husband and I made things work in the hopes that I’m an help someone else on their journey through school or work with a loved one.

My expectation going into school was that I would never see my husband, that he would either be studying or at school 99.9% of his time. (This was actually nice for me because I felt like I saw him all the time lol) Once he got a hold on things he was actually able to do a lot more than I expected. Here is what we planned out. He leaves for school every day at 8 am (even most Saturdays) even if he doesn’t have a class that early, this gives him extra time to study and meet with classmates. He always comes home at 6pm no matter when classes end that day to further study. This allows him to come home and spend time with Ryker and I, we always have dinner as a family which has really kept our bond alive. Occasionally he will come home early, mostly on a Saturday to have some more time as a family or to go to events. I think this system has worked out so well because we scheduled it like a work day. There is hope everyone! Find what fits your family the best and stick to it.

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The other rough thing about full time school is the financial situation. Our whole marriage we have had two incomes, so going down to barely one has been a huge adjustment for us. I decided that I needed a job where I could take Ryker with me because the cost of childcare can be so high. It was really hard for me to find happiness doing this. I tried nannying with a sweet family but the drive and hours were becoming difficult for me to handle. I tried starting an in home preschool which has already fizzled out. (Hopefully it will pick up next year) Now I am on to other things that are in the works and I will tell you all about once they are finalized. The best way to budget that we have worked out is to talk to each other. Every night Bobby and I dedicate any where from 10-20 minutes to talk about finances and scheduling for the next day. This has been a huge lifesaver for us, we both feel more in the know and we don’t have to hide any purchases. Talk to your husbands ladies! It’s so so important!

Lastly, MAKE FRIENDS! If you have kids, or even if you don’t! Friends will help you through it all. We are so blessed to be surrounded by a huge dental school where a bunch of wives and kids are in the same situation as us. Reach out, do what you have to so to not be alone all the time. It will really wear you down if you don’t have some adult interactions.. It has been a huge life saver for me to know that I have so many women around me that can support me and understand my situation. Don’t be afraid to put yourself out there, this is actually really hard for me to do, so if I can do it then so can you!

I hope that I am able to help some of you, our system isn’t perfect.. but it works for us. Some days seem way longer than others, that is when it is nice to get out and explore or talk with family! Life becomes consumed with studying and tests, but looking at the big picture it is worth every second!

 

Xoxo- Hillary

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Mexico Crusin’

Well it has been a while since I have posted! I stay really up to date on my Instagram if anyone wants to see the daily happenings. We just got home from a Carnival Cruise to Ensenada, Mexico. It was a vacation we planned before Bobby starts school again.. I plan to never really see him once he starts. We left Ryker at home (which was really difficult for me..) but had a TON of fun!

 

First things first, the packing. Bobby and I share one suit case, but I wish I used a carry on plus a large case this time. The first thing I do to start packing is check the weather. This trip said it wouldn’t get hotter than 70 degrees, which is pretty cold for Mexico. So I started packing with some bathing suits and coverups that I really wanted to try and wear. Even though I knew it would be on the cooler side, the cruise has 4 jacuzzis so I figured I may still need them. I also really want to get rid of my farmers tan lines, if you know what I mean.. After that I focus on what to wear for the weather, so I grabbed some long sleeve shirts, leggings, and jeans. Then I pack a couple of tank tops incase it is warmer inside of the ship. Shoes is the hard part! I always want to bring WAY too many! I decided on 2 pairs of sandals and 2 heel type shoes. The heels are for dinners and formal night, I prefer to wear sandals and not socks, so I didn’t pack any tennis shoes or boots. (Although I was regretting not having some boots because it was pretty chilly) When I pack Bobby it is way easier, just grab one sweater and some t-shirts, a button up or two, his suit (for formal night), shorts, and pants. Men are pretty basic and don’t need a ton.

 

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Arrival to the ship: We park our car at the port, it is really pricey so if you have someone willing to drop you off and pick you up it may be a better option. We have one of the porters check our bag so we do not have to take it onto the ship ourselves. It is free to do so and they take it straight to our room, we usually tip them a couple of dollars. Make sure to have your passport or birth certificate ready, you cannot get on the ship without it.If you are using a birth certificate then you need a picture ID to go with it. We love to get onto the ship and go straight to the food. That is the best part, unlimited food! The rooms aren’t ready until 1:30 or so anyways. We boarded around 12:30pm so we ate and just hung out by the pool until our room was ready. On a cruise your room key is the most important thing to have with you at all times, it is how you get drinks and really do or buy anything on the ship. Once we got our keys we unpacked and relaxed, the whole point of this trip was to get lots of rest and relaxation. We always scan over the itinerary for the day which they always have for you at your room. We went to dinner and the marriage game show, which is our favorite!

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Formal Night Ready!- I used a small long strapped purse the entire cruise, just big enough for my phone and a pack of gum! I also stowed some cash in there!

 

If you are a drinker or love soda like I do, then the unlimited soda or alcohol packages are for you. Soda and alcohol are not included in your cruise price, the soda package was 8 dollars a day and alcohol was 55 dollars a day. Totally worth it!! I do like to get the occasional blended drink, they are so good! Once all of this is settled have fun! Carnival now has an app that works while you are at sea and it tells you the weather, the itinerary, and any of the happenings on the cruise. What I LOVED about the app was that you can favorite certain events and the app would remind you when it was 15 minutes away. Super easy and fun to use. I have two things I love to do on cruises, first is trivia, even though I never win I have a great time! They had Harry Potter Trivia, TV theme song trivia, sports trivia, general trivia, and Friends trivia. We couldn’t make it to all of them but there are so many awesome options!

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The second thing I love is Bingo! It seems silly but they vamp it up on a cruise ship! I have never won but I have a good time playing. I don’t every buy the dobber they sell to play, I just bring a pen.

My dream is to someday go on a Disney Cruise! But it is just too expensive for now.. Carnival is a great cruise line to use as a first time cruiser. Let me know if you have any questions! Also a shout out to Paula’s Travel who planned our whole cruise for free! Contact her at 805-583-8339 or visit her Facebook page for any travel needs!

Xoxo, Hillary

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PA School or Bust!

Let me just start by saying that I am so extremely proud of my hubby for getting into Physician Assistant School the first round! It is really hard to get in the first time applying, so if you or your significant other hasn’t received an acceptance yet, don’t give up hope!

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When we found out that he got accepted to school across the country I didn’t know how to feel.. I was so excited but at the same time scared. We were going to have to uproot our lives and leave our families to move! I didn’t even know where to start.. Of course the first thing on my mind was a place to live. This was so fun looking for a place to house us for the next two years! But then I hit a brick wall.. I have never been to Louisville, KY I didn’t know the good areas from the bad and I was lost. Bobby (my hubby) reached out to some of the people that were already in the program that he met during his interview and we were able to find the perfect fit for our family. If you are struggling to find a place to live in a foreign state try reaching out on Facebook or another social media site to get some help. We also loved using the Trulia App because they tell you the crime rates and good shopping areas! The one nice thing was the prices, everything we were looking at was a lot cheaper than California, but that is no shocker there! We found an amazing 2 bed 2 bath place that has a dog park for Meeko and a playground for Ryker, it also has a gym, pool, and tennis courts! (Not that I play tennis lol) Words cannot express how excited I am to actually see it in person! Since we have been married we have lived in a granny flat with no oven or dishwasher.. almost 4 whole years people.. and I have really grown to appreciate using them, so I am so excited to have it in my own kitchen! Also, we have a washer and dryer inside the apartment which may be even better!

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The next step after finding an apartment was figuring out a job for me. I was thinking I would just continue to teach once I was there but something didn’t feel right about that.. So I started looking at ways I could stay at home with Ryker or bring him with me to work. It is not easy looking for a job when you don’t even live in the state yet.. I started with the idea of teaching online and having Ryker at home with me. It sounded amazing at first but then I realized if I was home alone and teaching and then Ryker started crying and needed me I wouldn’t be able to just up and leave the middle of teaching. So I started to doubt that option (especially since Ryker isn’t sleeping through the night yet). I then debated some type of online customer service where I did not have to talk on the phone, where it was all typed correspondence, but the hours are not by choice. There has to be some option out there for me… I even applied to a preschool, but then the pay wouldn’t be enough if we also had to pay a portion for Ryker to go. I am at a loss in this area but I will keep you guys posted once I make a decision. If anyone has any great ideas let me know!

One of the last things we did was sell the majority of our large furniture, we didn’t want to drive it all and pay thousands of dollars for a moving truck. So once we get to Kentucky we will buy everything. I am so excited for this because then I get to decorate a house for the first time! If anyone has any furniture recommendations let me know! It is so hard living out of boxes at the moment and we are counting down the days until we make the biggest change in our lives.. Stay tuned over the next few months for moving tips and how it goes traveling with a baby, or I guess toddler at that point, Ryker will be one!!

xoxo, Hillary

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How It All Started

I am so excited to start this blogging journey! It all really came to me when my hubby got into Physician Assistant school.. we were all of a sudden moving across the country and I needed a plan. I knew that I wanted to stay at home as much as possible with our son, but we needed some sort of income. I was searching for teaching positions, because I am currently a Kindergarten teacher, but then I would be away from Ryker all day. I needed a space to really set free and be myself. I wanted the flexibility of a stay at home mom with some sort of income. I may have found my itch. I want to share my journey to Kentucky with everyone, because maybe there is someone out there who is going through the same. Let’s talk about the ups and downs of moving far away from all our family and friends, the ways that we decorate our new apartment (we have sold all of our furniture so its a blank slate!), and some fun and exciting things along the way. I can’t wait to to get to know all of you!

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